Thoughts for the weekend

  1. Part of being an adult is learning to regret.  When I was a child, I didn’t regret.  I always felt justified by what I felt in the moment.  Now that I am an adult, I have learned that my feelings are not a justification.  So now, I learn to regret.
  2. If I were to believe that people are inherently evil I would also have to believe that society is evil, and since society elects government and holds them accountable that would make government evil, and all of that would lead to me never wanting to leave the house.  I’m glad that I believe in the goodness of humanity.  It makes life easier to live.
  3. Not all things are either one or the other, some are both or neither, and that is maddening.  It is maddening when I try to make a rational argument and have to find myself debating both points or none or introducing new arguments just to clarify.  I wish rational debate were as easy as saying, “zero is nothing,” when zero is something.  Damn it.
  4. Let your yes be yes and your no be no.  And, when necessary, let your maybe be maybe.  Again: damn it.  Life can be hard sometimes, so whenever possible be clear and hold to your convictions.
  5. Act as you wish others would act, treat others as you wish to be treated, and in all things hold to compassion as the highest ideal of mankind.  I have seen in my life, many times, that all of the love and good I sow around me is returned sevenfold.  Those who live a life exemplary of love as God’s highest calling are never left with empty hands.
  6. Don’t be afraid.  Why should you be afraid?  Life is a transient thing, it comes and it goes, it waxes and wanes, there is pain and there is light.  Like swimming in the ocean, if you clench in fear you will be drowned.  If you surrender control, you will be buoyed.  So swing your arms wide, feel the saltwater at your back and the sun on your face.
  7. Gratitude is a virtue- and a great one.  Those who are able to feel profound gratitude always seem to find things to be grateful for, and their life is full of the knowledge of blessings.  It’s a virtue I don’t always have but one that I pray for, because I want to be the kind of person who never lacks for a card to give or a note to leave or a phone call to make, just to say thank you.

Take some time this weekend to empty yourself, to sit in the sunshine and simply feel the vibrancy of the world around you.  Allow your thoughts to think themselves.

Be grateful.

It’s spring, time to air out the mattresses and the men, so to speak.  😀

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7 thoughts on “Thoughts for the weekend

  1. Ahhh….like a fresh cool breeze. What a great way to begin the weekend and a thoughtful list to reflect on. Now, go air out your men but please, no details on Monday on how that went for you 🙂

  2. Another good post. And so many wise words to think of and consider. I really liked the thought, “in all things hold to compassion as the highest ideal of mankind.” A good reminder for me to give the compassion to others that I am seeking for myself. Thanks again.

  3. Shush – let me temper you in one little thing. Regret. Regret isn’t the right wording thought process. Recognition of past errors and learning from them is way better. Regretting them is pretty useless. Much better to learn from your mistakes and take action not to repeat them than to regret…

    Otherwise… perfect as always.

  4. P.S. Every “Mistake” or choice you have made in the past has brought you to where you are now. Brought you wisdom and brought you gifts in their own way. Why regret them really?

  5. OK well… if you Murder/rape/abuse – YOU SHOULD REGRET IT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AND INTO EVERY OTHER

  6. I don’t think regret is always a bad thing. I do regret my selfishness as an adolescent and some of the pain I’ve caused other people. I regret that my being so egocentric and self-protecting early in my marriage and with the birth of my daughter caused relationships to drift. I haven’t always been the best I could be or the best I expected of myself, and there’s really nothing wrong with regretting it, as my desire to not fail myself or others helps continue to motivate me to be a better person. Letting go of those regrets when it is time is also an important part of adulthood, as realization of regret is good (it means I have a conscience) but self-recrimination after a while becomes pointless and could lead to depression.
    It’s part of the cycle of life, joy and sorrow, letting go and catching on. I do accept my mistakes as part of my journey to who I am now, which is why I can repent of the past and move on, but I wouldn’t say that regret in and of itself is a bad thing- although letting regret rancor into bitterness and self hatred is.

    Anyway… Thanks, everyone, for your nice comments. And @ Anita *lol* The mattress airing went well. The other, well… 😀

  7. Shush,

    I understand what you are saying about regret… but I still say, “Life is too short to regret what’s over and done with.” If feelings are hurt, work to mend them. If there’s a lesson to be learned, learn it an move the f on. But regret, in the sense of wallowing in past errors, complete waste of time/energy. One of the joys of being a Child of God is we have no use for regret. When Jesus called those 16/17/18/19 year-old boys to be his disciples, he said, simply, “Follow me.” And they did! And the world has never been the same! They didn’t agonize over what they had done in their lives that might make them unworthy… Jesus said, “Follow me… I believe in you… Follow me.”

    You Rock, Gurl!!

    Matty

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