Can someone please explain to me what is so bad about being a feminist?
I’ve seen a lot of Christian forums wherein feminism is blamed for high abortion rates, single parent households, working mothers, males being “emasculinated”, ADHD, drug use, sex in the media, and so on and so forth.
I just don’t see the connection. I don’t see how me- a woman- wanting to have equal rights with men means that my neighbor will get an abortion, her husband won’t feel like much of a man, their son will get ADHD and shoot up a school, and her daughter will be “over-sexed”. I really don’t see how there is anything resembling a connection. Let’s assume, for the sake of argument, that all of these things are connected. It may be quite possible that men feeling out of place, mothers working, kids having higher incidences of ADHD and other disorders, and higher abortion rates all share a single source. But if that were the case, if this laundry list of societal ills is easily blamed on anything, doesn’t it make sense that the blame should be placed not on women but on society as a whole?
Isn’t it more to blame on consumerism, on modernity, on the digital age, on the loss of a connection to nature and work and simplicity? Isn’t it more about the kind of world we live in these days? No longer hunters and gatherers are we. No longer do we live in a world where the man works and earns his place by the sweat of his brow while his little wife stays home and wins her salvation through childrearing. No longer do we depend on neighborhood and community, no longer are we all well known to each other. Perhaps all of these things are easily blamed on something.
It’s just not me or my rights.
It’s the world, it’s need and greed, it’s the ailing of souls who have lost their connection to the divine.
Perhaps the Christians who are so quick to point fingers should examine themselves. They should ask if they’ve bought into a world of consumerism and capitilism. They should ask if they’ve turned a blind eye to the “sex sells” and “anything for the bottom line” mindset that pays so many of our paychecks; If they’ve spent more time trying to pad their wallets than care for their hyperactive sons and over-sexed daughters; If they’ve confused the real message and instead of teaching their children to win favor by compassion and good works, taught them to win by competitiveness and pettiness. Perhaps there is someone who ought to be blamed.
Perhaps it’s all of us.
It’s easy to fall back on flashy headlines, pointed fingers, fear and disquiet. It’s easy to bring in the readers through controversy and infighting on your forums. It’s easy, but it’s not right. It’s not right to blame a movement that one could easily argue Jesus himself would have supported. It’s easy to say the common line. But what is right? What is right is being honest and real.
Reality is that if anyone is to blame, all of us are. Christianity perhaps the most of all- because we’re supposed to be the ones bringing life and healing. And instead, once again, we bring condemnation and blame.